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Why should you believe anything we have to say about relationships? Well, in short, you don’t. Don’t believe anything we say unless it resonates deep within you.

It is not even necessary to make a belief or create dogma from anything in order for it to be effective in your life. It is only necessary to practice. Why not make an experiment out of it, and see for yourself what effect it has in your life?

The things that we have learned may point to a way for you to experience more harmony in your relationships with the ones you love, those you associate and even within yourself. I’m reasonably sure they will. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this.

Now, I’m not saying we have all the answers. All the answers you need are already within you. All we can do is call them forth.

Relationships should be easy, free flowing, and fun. Our lives are set up to be that way…really.

 

We’re the ones that bring the junk to the table. We walk around emotionally like Steve Martian in “The Jerk” uselessly holding on to a bunch of junk we’ll never need and just make it hard to walk around.

 

“…all’s I need is this chair, my paddleball,…..and this LAMP!”

 

For most folks, emotions are blocks that build dams.

 

The emotions are like a dam that we build so that we slow to a trickle what is really supposed to be flowing at a raging rate. We take our emotions and we build blocks out of them, big heavy bricks. The bricks weigh a ton.

 

And so then we hold onto that instead of letting it go until we build another brick that weighs a ton and we have to hold that around. And we carry these things around until we start building dams with them.

 

And that dams up our life force of flow such that we block ourselves from getting what we want.

 

And like a dam there’s a great pressure that gets built up behind that wall.

 

And once you start plucking away at it, once you start releasing that weight of those emotions, those bricks become unable to hold that torrent any longer.

 

And your life force begins to flow.

 

And like a dam if, you started deconstructing it from the top, brick by brick by brick, eventually it will weaken to the point to where the dam will crumble.

 

And all it really takes, with that much pressure behind it is just the one first crack that’s going to weaken the entire structure.

 

And once that entire structure is weakened, the structure that we put on ourselves, that builds this emotional wall, once we break that, once we poke a hole it and crack it, it’s inevitable that it tumbles away.

 

And our life force begins to flow again.

 

 

Use the forces of nature to your advantage.

 

Once you realize that you can be in the flow instead of resisting the flow, that’s where the effortless life comes in.

 

Because if you resist the life flow and you resist the free flowing nature of what your life really should be, that resistance causes great, great consternation and agony.

 

And it creates that emotionally weighted block that we carry around.

 

And once you realize that the flow of life force is so much stronger, more powerful, more efficient than anything you could ever create on your own, then all you have to do is tap it and let it work for you.

 

You start to be in a position where you can create a wonderful, free flowing life in all aspects.

 

A friend asked me that question a few days ago, and I didn’t have a ready answer. I’m a muller – the one who knows exactly what she would have said, later, after the conversation is over.

The reason for this book is simple. The deepest longing of the human heart and soul is for connection, and so we spend our lives in the pursuit of that feeling of connection.

What often gets in the way of that feeling is our patterns of relating and processing our emotions. And where do we learn these patterns? Mostly from other people who don’t know how to relate harmonically.

And so, we feel our connection in fits and starts, as long as our conditions for feeling connected ar met, and as soon as things aren’t going exactly the way we think they should, we feel disconnected again.

And then one day, we awaken, and we realize we want more harmony in our lives. We want to get off the emotional roller coaster and take a nice, rejuvenating cruise instead. So, we begin searching for the path that will bring us what we deeply desire. And the moment we commit ourselves to that journey, our souls begin bringing us the information, connections and resources that will help us realize that commitment. That’s the meaning of the Buddhist saying, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” And that’s why you are here.